I heard a joke on the radio to the effect that a Democratic fundraiser in a wine cave is perfectly appropriate, because Democrats are best known for whining and caving. Is that true?
In a way, yes. The GOP is a swaggering daddy party; the Democrats, on the other hand, are a predominantly female party that prefers making deals and getting things done to bellowing and needlessly dividing the country. As a result, Biden and Mayor Pete are prospering with a message of unifying the country; you wouldn’t see anyone with that message running in a GOP primary, even before Trump.
Democrats compromise when it is necessary to keep the country going. That makes them the adult party as well as the mommy party. There is no reason to apologize for that; like every family, every country needs adults somewhere.